No matter what age your child may be, there are certain tips to keep in mind when creating the essential parenting plan.

It is important to remember:

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  • Children develop best when both parents have meaningful and stable involvement in their lives.
  • Each parent has different and valuable contributions to make to their children’s development.
  • It is better for young children to spend more time with parents and less time with other caregivers.
  • Communication and cooperation between parents is important. Setting consistent rules in both households and sharing knowledge of events create a sense of security for children of all ages. Parents must discuss and plan school activities and other events.
  • If children are allowed to bring their personal items back and forth between the households, they develop a better sense of ownership and responsibility. Parents should purchase special things for the children but not restrict those items to their own house.
  • Children need to be protected from adult conflicts. They should not be exposed to arguments, hostility and negative comments between the parents. They do not want to hear negative things about someone they love.
  • Children should not be messengers—they are the children. The parents should do the adult work so that children may complete the tasks of being children.



About Debra Carter

Dr. Carter is a Clinical and Forensic Psychologist. She is also a Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Law Mediator and a Parent Coordinator. She is Co-Founder and Chief Clinical Director of the National Cooperative Parenting Center (NCPC) offering a wide spectrum of services to the Mental Health and Legal Communities as well as to families and children who are struggling with divorce related issues. She is, a frequent expert to the court, and an international speaker, lecturer and trainer on parenting in divorce. She is a consultant to the US Department of State in matters of international child custody.

Dr. Carter is the leader in the development of standardized Parental Responsibility Guidelines emphasizing the needs of children in divorce, which have been adopted and endorsed by the court. She has received numerous awards including the the prestigious “John E. Van Duzer Distinguished Service Award” from the International Chapter of the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts.

Her work can be found through Unhooked Books: