Regarding coParenting and joint custody, it helps to meet often and hold coParenting business meetings on a regular basis. These coParenting business meetings are well-planned, complete with an agenda, timelines, problem-solving, and cooperative attitudes. They are generally held at a coffee shop or similar neutral environment. Rotating responsibility for meeting planning (one parent in odd years, the other in even for example), helps keep both engaged and positively involved.
Share tasks — if one coParent planned the meeting and drafted the agenda, the other parent could take notes and prepare for action. Review notes, make corrections and confirm in a timely manner. Keep your notes to refer to for shared decisions, designation of tasks and timelines established. Refer back to your notes to help with keeping agreements made and following up on commitments. Since you are in a joint custody coParenting relationship, it will greatly benefit you and your child to decrease negative emotions, increase communication, and work together with your coParent to make joint parenting decisions that are in the best interest of your child.
You and your coParent may expand this model to better fit the unique features of your lifestyle, rhythms, and children’s needs. We encourage you to experiment and discover what works best for you.