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Dear KID-EASE: My daughter will be in high school next year and I’m looking for a smaller STEM school. Her dad is set on one school, and we don’t agree. I’m trying to avoid court, but it looks like it’s heading that way. Any tips to help us pick together and what’s best for our daughter?

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KID-EASE: Thank you for your important question. I have many questions before giving a cogent response.

Do you and your ex share equal legal decision making for your daughter? I’m not an attorney.

Have you and your ex visited with her school guidance counselor together to hear about the available High School STEM programs locally in your PRESENT school system?

Is your daughter’s counselor recommending one particular school and program over others?

Have you visited/toured the program/s together with your Ex and posed thoughtful questions to the educational professionals who are in charge of the programs?

Did you see the school program in action with students presently engaged? This is a great way to learn and make a studied opinion.

Before visiting programs, is it possible for you and your Ex to come up with a criteria list for a good STEM PROGRAM and a 1-5 point rating scale (1=poor and 5=excellent) so this issue becomes more objective?

Compare ratings after you both see all available schools/programs?

I hope you consider these questions and try to become a positive Parenting Team to benefit your daughter’s education. You could discover the best STEM Program ever, however if a child/teen experiences parents fighting over the school placement, well nothing becomes important except negativity and judgmental behavior. The Program is tainted!

High School should be a positive, well thought out positive choice with two parents caring deeply about their child’s needs. Don’t forget social and emotional considerations as well as academics are what counts.

Good luck.

Dr. Judy Bin-Nun PhD,  LMFT, LPCC



About Judith Bin-Nun, PhD

Judith Bin-Nun, Ph.D. MA, LMFT, LPCC, Child Development Specialist, Educator, Artist

Ph.D Clinical Child Psychology, LMFT, LPCC, MA Jewish Education, MA Psychology, MA Marriage, Family and Child Counseling, BA Cum Laude UCLA, Lifetime California Standard Teaching Credential K-9, BJE Principal’s License, APT Registered Play Therapist and Supervisor, RJE Reform Jewish Educator from National Association of Temple Educators, Delta Society Pet Partners/Animal Assisted Therapy: UCLA PAC (People Animal Connection) AAT Team, R.E.A.D.Program, Paws4Healing LA Chapter, Delta Pet Partner: Volunteer-Locked Child/Adolescent Psychiatric Unit UCLA NPI, Wadsworth VA locked psychiatric ward, Alzheimer/Dementia patients at OPICA (drop off adult daycare center) and with developmentally disabled adults at Exceptional Children’s Foundation.

Services: Play Therapy, Individual or Couples Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Anger Management, Attachment Therapy, Psychodynamic Psychotherapy – Eclectic and Spiritually Based Therapy, Behavior Therapy (CBT), Educational Consultation, Parent Guidance, Recreational Therapy – Studio Art and Cooking Therapy Groups, Social Skills Therapy, Social Skills work for Autistic Spectrum Disorder, and Couples and Family Counseling, Individual and Family Work.