A coParent can prepare their child ahead of time for back to school. One most important step is to prepare them socially.

It is very important to phone the child’s school, to see if a classroom and teacher have been assigned and then to do the following: ask for a class list with emails or phone numbers.  Think of inviting kids over in two groups to begin friendships.

Sign up for our newsletter today and get exclusive coParenting content.

Think of positive, non-competitive games and activities that could be accomplished at such a meeting…art projects, scavenger hunts, ball games– the event could be held in a nearby park (this doesn’t have to be in your home) in a picnic table area. Ask parents to pack a lunch and say that you will provide water and a fruit for dessert.  You don’t know food allergies so it is safe not to bake cookies etc. until these situations become known.

You can write a letter to the teacher sharing any social positives or concerns you may have about the school year and your child’s welfare. Before your write, ask your child if she/he have any specifics concerns about the upcoming school year. Include this in the letter. Hopefully there is a school orientation where you can bring your child and he/she can meet the teacher and some classmates.

Start planning some ideas for after-school activities with friends – clubs, classes, play dates so your child can be prepared to help choose these fun, social experiences when school begins.

If necessary you can role play difficult social situations with your child and can discuss how to make and keep friends, how to stay away from bullying and how to report critical problems to the classroom teacher.


About Judith Bin-Nun, PhD

Judith Bin-Nun, Ph.D. MA, LMFT, LPCC, Child Development Specialist, Educator, Artist

Ph.D Clinical Child Psychology, LMFT, LPCC, MA Jewish Education, MA Psychology, MA Marriage, Family and Child Counseling, BA Cum Laude UCLA, Lifetime California Standard Teaching Credential K-9, BJE Principal’s License, APT Registered Play Therapist and Supervisor, RJE Reform Jewish Educator from National Association of Temple Educators, Delta Society Pet Partners/Animal Assisted Therapy: UCLA PAC (People Animal Connection) AAT Team, R.E.A.D.Program, Paws4Healing LA Chapter, Delta Pet Partner: Volunteer-Locked Child/Adolescent Psychiatric Unit UCLA NPI, Wadsworth VA locked psychiatric ward, Alzheimer/Dementia patients at OPICA (drop off adult daycare center) and with developmentally disabled adults at Exceptional Children’s Foundation.

Services: Play Therapy, Individual or Couples Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Anger Management, Attachment Therapy, Psychodynamic Psychotherapy – Eclectic and Spiritually Based Therapy, Behavior Therapy (CBT), Educational Consultation, Parent Guidance, Recreational Therapy – Studio Art and Cooking Therapy Groups, Social Skills Therapy, Social Skills work for Autistic Spectrum Disorder, and Couples and Family Counseling, Individual and Family Work.