Regarding coParents and joint custody, it helps to meet often and hold parenting business meetings on a regular basis.
They are well-planned, complete with agenda, timelines, problem-solving and cooperative attitudes. They are generally held at a coffee shop or similar neutral environment. Rotating responsibility for meeting planning (one parent in odd years, the other in even for example), helps keep both engaged and positively participative.
Share tasks — if one parent planned the meeting and drafted an agenda, the other parent could take notes and prepare for distribution. Review minutes, make corrections and confirm in a timely manner. Keep your notes to refer to for shared decisions, designation of tasks and timelines established. Refer back to your notes to help with keeping agreements made and following up on commitments.
You and your coParent may expand this model to better fit the unique features of your lifestyle, rhythms, and children’s needs. We encourage you to experiment and discover what works best for you.