coParents agree that divorce is not an easy journey for children to navigate. Many professionals have advice for coParents on sailing through waters that can be both smooth and stormy.

The smoother the divorce, the better the end result is for the children. Mutual respect for both coParents plays a key role. And keeping in mind advice to steer children away from depression and anxiety.

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Number one, focus on your children’s well-being. Taking the focus off of any frustration or anger with each other is advised This is the time to work together. Kids are the project and their well-being is the goal.


While with the children, coParents should try their hardest to not argue. Never ask the child to choose a parent or take sides, or use them as a tool for getting back at one another.


For most coParents, there may even be discussions at the child’s school with their friends. Assuming that children will be shielded from this may be unreasonable. Communicating with your children about what is real and true. Telling your children that you understand that people do talk, Dr. Gail Saltz, associate professor of psychiatry at New York-Presbyterian Hospital. As a coParent, if your child is uncomfortable with others speaking about their parent’s split, let your child know it is okay to say, “I do not like what you are saying.”

This information offers insight by Kelly Wallace.








About Lori Denman-Underhill

Lori Denman-Underhill uses the power of the press to raise awareness about endless causes. She is the Content Director for the company, coParenter.

Mothering is Lori’s top priority. She understands the importance of raising a healthy and happy child. She appreciates the opportunity to offer helpful advice to coParents as a mother and also as a preschool teacher of many years.

As a professional journalist, Lori’s work graces the pages of 20 publications, in print and online. She also attains a BA in Journalism and Sociology from the University of New Mexico and is certified in Childcare Education. For the past eight years, Lori has cared for and worked with young children. She hopes to share her endless amount of childcare knowledge with coParenter readers.