As you work as a coParent to strengthen your relationship with your child, also consider the tasks that you can perform alone (self-regulated parenting) and those it is best for both parents to work out (coordinated parenting).

The responsibility of the parents to perform some of these tasks may be designated by a court ordered parenting plan.  Implementation of coordinated parenting should be your goal if that is required in your court-ordered plan. If the coParent is highly uncooperative, concentrate on the self-regulated tasks at first.  If you detect over time that your self-centered coParenting skills are having some positive influence over the coParent, start working on incorporating more of the coordinated tasks into your parenting goals.

Sign up for our newsletter today and get exclusive coParenting content.

To learn more about self-centered coParenting, visit this story.


About Kathleen Bird

Kathleen Bird, JD is a mediator, parent educator, former judge, and family lawyer. Her book, Self-Centered Co-Parenting, is the result of her experience working with thousands of frustrated parents to find a self-empowering method for quality parenting and decision-making.