I found a story online, listing top strategies to co-parent with an uncooperative ex. Tips included: be available, take care of yourself and speak nicely in front of the child. I’m not perfect but my schedule is open, I don’t talk bad about the other parent, etc. How can I get the other parent to conform to court orders at a minimum and/or coParent when they feel they are superior?
I appreciate that you sharing your difficult co-parenting situation, you are not alone. I’m a psychotherapist and not an attorney so I am not qualified to give legal advice about getting your ex to conform to court orders. I would suggest that both you and your co-parent would benefit from work with a child therapist who specializes in working with families of divorce. In this safe environment, you can learn just how important it is that your children see you both as parenting equals.
It is so important that the word “superior” is deleted – it only will serve to make you feel “less than” when you are doing everything possible to follow solid rules regarding how you refrain from negative talk with your kids about their mom. If you could both come forward with the desire to have wholeness in your children’s hearts and have their internal parental images remain strong, then you can learn together to live a healthy co-parenting relationship for the benefit of your children.
Just make sure you don’t visit a psychotherapist to dump negative feelings to avoid a solution based focus. Many divorced spouses think therapy is a place to share anger and tell tales on one another. This is a waste of your time and your money. You both can enter the therapy room with one idea only – positive co-parenting by doing what is best for your children.