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coParenting: Cooperation Over Conflict

No matter how you slice it, divorce is hard on children. coParents, here is how to put your child first in divorce. Keep kids at the center. Not in the middle.
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coParenting: Cooperation Over Conflict

No matter how you slice it, divorce is hard on children. Children are affected by feelings of helplessness, lack of predictability, increased parental conflict, and poor parenting which leads to poor coParenting. It’s important to understand that parental conflict and unpredictability lead to poor parenting and perpetuate feelings of helplessness in children. Likewise, chronic conflict lends itself to protracted and ongoing litigation causing children significant emotional distress. Whether coParents realize it or not, this puts children in the middle of their divorce and problems.

The good news, however, is that you have the power to approach your divorce in a way that reduces conflict; you can choose to collaborate with each other instead of competing against each other. By exposing children to less conflict, they will suffer less and recover far more easily and quickly. It’s interesting to note that children are often better off with divorced parents who coParent well, get along and put their children’s needs first, than with parents who remain in bad marriages and expose them to chronic parental conflict. Divorce is not always bad and sometimes needed to make sure that children are in a positive and thriving environment.

Research conducted in recent years demonstrates that when coParents choose cooperation over conflict, the negative effects of divorce on children are less severe than previously thought. In fact, researchers view chronic parental conflict, more than the divorce itself, as the most defining factor influencing how a child adjusts after divorce. As much as you may dislike your ex, your love for your children should always come first.

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